02/2514 5 Factors of Attraction
- Proximity
- Geographic nearness
- Mere exposure effect: Repeated exposure to something breeds liking.
- Mirror image concept.
- Reciprocal Liking
- You are more likely to like someone else who likes you.
- Similarity
- Paula Abdul was wrong- opposites do not attract.
- Birds of the same feather do flock together.
- Similarity breeds content.
- Physical Attractiveness
- Love
- Passionate Love- An aroused state positive absorption of another.
- Compassionate Love- The deep affectionate attachment we feel for those with whom our lives are interviewed.
- What makes compassionate love work?
- Equity (being fair)
- Self- Disclosure (no secrets)
- Altruism
- Unselfish regard for the welfare of others.
- Kitty Genovese case
- Bystander effect. (Bystanders less willing to help if there are other bystanders around.)
- Social Exchange Theory
- The idea that our social behavior is an exchange process, which we maximize benefits and minimize costs.
- Peacemaking
- Give people super ordinate (shared) goods that can only be achieved through cooperation.
- Win win situation through medication
- GRIT (Graduated and Reciprocated Initiatives in Tension Reduction)
I actually like people who are different from me, mystery draws me in, so similarity is not my number one factor. But i am a total victim of proximity and physical attractiveness. Physical attraction is one of the first things i consider.The way the person is dressed is what i always look at, you can tell a lot from that. Then of course their looks, like a tall guy, Love them!! But anyway, proximity is the deciding factor of who i would actually like to talk to. i do not want someone too far, and too close brings clinginess. So school, for me, can be a good proximity because i would see the person a few times in the hallway to retain that attraction but not too much to make the relationship boring.
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